When people feel they are in some kind of trouble, they sometimes wonder who to turn to. Selby College aims to ensure all of our learners are kept safe from harm and that means everyone in the college community has a responsibility to report something that is happening either directly or indirectly (this could relate to online/esafety) to them or to their friends, especially if they notice a friend’s behaviour suddenly changes or a friend approaches them to talk about a problem that they themselves don’t know how to deal with.
How can the college help?
Selby College recognises its moral and statutory responsibility to safeguard and promote welfare to students. We work to provide a safe and welcoming environment where students are respected and valued. We are alert to the signs of abuse and neglect and follow our procedures to ensure our students receive effective support, protection and justice. Selby College expects Governors, Staff and volunteers working on behalf of the college to share this commitment.
Who should I to speak to?
If you have a problem, you might choose to go direct to one of your Tutors, the college Counsellor, or your Guidance and Support Tutor for help or advice. Alternatively, you might choose to talk to friends. If you would like to talk to a staff member but would prefer not to do this face to face, you can report the matter using the ‘Stay Safe’ button on Moodle by clicking on the Stay Safe! Symbol in the green box.
The ‘Stay Safe’ button is there to help you report a problem so one of our staff can deal with it. Most students will suffer from feeling troubled at some time, it’s all part of growing up, whether it is at college or outside the college. If this gets a little too much, it might put your health and wellbeing at risk. That is why we want our students to share their problems so we can something to help.
What if you suspect someone has a problem?
If the person with the problem is a friend it might be worthwhile suggesting they talk to a member of staff. If you don’t feel comfortable discussing the matter directly with them, or they deny having a problem, you can use the ‘Stay Safe’ button on Moodle to report the matter and the college will follow it up with the person directly.
What if your friend denies having a problem?
Sometimes a friend might deny something you have noticed. Usually there are signs, often little things you might pick up on, that show a person is behaving differently from how they would normally. Some of the key things to look out for are:-
- Is the person withdrawing from college life or times they meet up with you outside college to socialise with you, spending more time away from you at home or being absent from their course?
- Do they appear to be anxious either alone or in a group?
- Are they frequently off sick or claiming to be ill, sleep deprived or lethargic?
- Do they appear sad, miserable, unmotivated or unassertive?
- Are they eating regularly?
- Have they experienced a traumatic event or something that has caused them distress, like a loved one being ill, parents splitting up or a recent unexpected death in the family?
- Do they seem overly affected by things, or show sudden mood changes?
- Are there marked changes in personal hygiene or their appearance i.e. is their clothing unwashed or do they appear dirty?
- Are there signs of self-harm like scars or scabbing caused by cuts across their arms or legs?
- Are they excessively drinking or using drugs?
If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, then it might be time for you to have a chat with your friend and suggest they either speak to someone at college or they use the ‘Stay Safe’ button on Moodle. If you decide to report the matter, you can always ask the college staff not to mention your name when they speak to the person.
Remember, as the saying goes, a problem shared is a problem halved.